‘A family’s access to inter-personal support, and the parents ability to repair rupture in the parent-child relationship, appear to be more powerful predictors of therapeutic success than the severity of problem behaviour’ .This statement by Jacob (2018) underpins the authors adaptation of principles of Non Violent Resistance to multi-stressed families presenting with young people with violent , aggressive or self-destructive behaviours. His paper Multi: Stressed Families, child violence and the larger system: an adaptation of the non-violent model describes a process for transforming the larger system to become emotionally and physically safer and in doing so creating a family which is a more containing and healing environment for its members. The process addresses two key challenges, the often extreme isolation of parents in multi-stressed families and the dominance of other adults within the system and offers practical guidelines to address each in a non-violent way that builds parental presence. Once a parent experiences themselves as mature and supported, emotional regulation improves and they are better placed to emotionally contain the child and begin the work of repairing the parent-child relationship.

Jacob,P. (2018) Multi: Stressed Families, child violence and the larger system: an adaptation of the non-violent model Journal of Family Therapy  40:25-44